The Sex Connection

Sex is a gift from God, created to bond a married couple and to reflect His nature, but it isn’t always easy to navigate two bodies becoming one. About the time you think you have it figured out, something can challenge a couple to revisit its purpose. Sex is about intimacy—connection and pleasure—not just about the physical act.

Sex is celebrated and encouraged, throughout scripture. God encourages Adam and Eve to consummate their marriage. This happened before they ate of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, before sin ever entered the world. In the Song of Solomon, God celebrates sexual passion and pleasure. In scripture, He encourages couples to come together frequently and declares the marriage bed pure (Hebrews 14:3). He also says, “The marriage bed must be a place of mutuality—the husband seeking to satisfy his wife, the wife seeking to satisfy her husband” (1 Corinthians 7:3-4). Sex is meant to be a beautiful, mutual, celebration of husband and wife, made in the image of God enjoying all that He created, including the ability to make love and become one flesh.

For sex to become a loving, tender, mutual experience for the husband and the wife, we have to learn to understand our differences and keep the focus on connection and pleasure. Sex is more than skin on skin, more than intercourse and orgasm. Sex penetrates our souls and bonds us to one another. And what is needed is a healthy view of sex.

Thought Bomb: How are you connecting with your spouse?